Some thoughts from our Conference ideas wall

One of the features of The First National Conference for Men and Boys was a conference ideas wall where we asked delegates to say how they think we can improve the lives of men and boys in the UK. Below is a selection of the answers:

HOW DO WE GIVE EVERY BOY THE BEST POSSIBLE START IN LIFE?

  • Love him, celebrate him
  • Let him play fight
  • Let him have 2 loving parents
  • Parenting classes solely for dads
  • Encourage play in nature setting
  • STOP DEMONIZING!
  • Love them and support those that do
  • Mothers need to know when not to smother
  • Reassurance – asking for help is good

HOW DO WE HELP EVERY DAD BE THE BEST DAD HE CAN BE?

  • See him
  • Value him, he should get 50% of your attention
  • Read Steve Biddulph’s ‘Manhood’
  • Invitation to responsibility and give him support
  • Give him equal rights!
  • Less helping, more listening
  • SURESTART?
  • Give every dad a ‘Baby’s here’ book
  • By sharing our experiences together
  • Allow dads to ‘not be ok’ and ask for help
  • Provide practical info he can apply
  • Dads Groups (Give it a try we don’t bite)
  • Don’t be alone, try it.
  • Don’t be alone, try it!

HOW DO WE HELP MEN LIVE LONGER, HAPPIER, HEALTHIER LIVES?

  • Educate health professionals
  • Co-ordination, linking services
  • Work top down and bottom up approaches within a multi-agency partnership
  • Involve others – less self
  • Spread knowledge on health, diseases and ways to improve health
  • Educate GPs
  • Being happier longer within our lives
  • Health education starting early, junior schools and beyond

HOW DO WE KEEP EVERYONE SAFE BY KEEPING MEN AND BOYS SAFE?

  • Help him belong to a family and to a community
  • Michael Meade “The fires that burn”
  • Work on self less on help (victim)
  • Motivate and enable boys to connect more effectively in the community, without the need for organisations and agencies
  • Give men and boys permission to speak
  • Heart speaking, keep it real!
  • Letting men and boys know that talking (feeling) is ok!!
  • Building safe relationships and protective behaviours
  • Talk openly about suicide – a preventable death
  • Train ordinary men to learn suicide alertness & intervention skills
About

Glen Poole is UK co-ordinator for International Men's Day, Director at the consultancy Helping Men and news editor of insideMAN magazine. Follow him on twitter @HelpingMen or find out more about his work at www.helpingmen.co.uk.

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One comment on “Some thoughts from our Conference ideas wall
  1. amos2008 says:

    The comments here are spot on for accuracy. If you tell people the truth about what is happening in society today, and NOT what the media tell us is happening, their eyes open wide in abject disbelief.
    Feminism was never about getting equality for women; it was about trying to establish a favoured position within society for women. Most people are unaware that 40% of people suffering from domestic violence are MEN. The vast majority of NHS money is spent on WOMEN’s health.
    And, talking of International Men’s Day, the Welsh Assembly granted £30,000 to International Women’s Day and absolutely nothing to International Men’s Day. I bet you didn’t hear that on any BBC news bulletin.
    The Welsh Assembly is one of the most misandric and sexist ruling bodies in the world. When one of the leading UK men’s charities applied for £150,000 to start a branch in Wales to help men they received nothing. Out of the same available pot of money – £3.25million – Welsh Women’s Aid received £1.25million. One Welsh Assembly member, Jane Hutt, used to run Welsh Women’s Aid before entering politics. I couldn’t possibly comment, but I expect you will have your own suspicious thoughts about this !

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